Are You A Nag? Try New Ways of Dealing With Others Are You A Nag? Try New Ways of Dealing With Others January 3, 2019 admin Comments 0 Comment So many times people become upset as they are continually telling someone what should be achieved without results. They nag and nag about the matter but nothing changes. Then they attempt to recruit others to join the sport of trying to inspire through repeated conversation. Wah wah wah wah wah wah wah wah. Eventually the target of the chatter becomes angry and starts pointing the finger at the reformer! They deflect the issue onto the person who’s attempting to bring positive change. Are you a nag? Have you been trying to”fix” or change another person who is not reacting the way you want? Are you noticing that the other person’s situation is worsening and that you’re wearing down? Unfortunately, however dysfunctional someone’s life seems to be, that person will never change unless they think that life isn’t working for them anymore. It is not you opinion or judgement or hints that will make the difference. No matter how positive you are or how eager to provide support, your actions are only wearing you down. Here are some things that you can do otherwise: Focus on your own behavior. Be sure that you are practicing self-care with healthy eating, sleeping and accessing resources that will build you up. Clearly, and without emotion, write down the things you have valued about another person and the things you want to see changed. Insert a deadline to your petition saying that you will talk again on the deadline to discuss what is going to happen next based on the situation at that time. State positive and negative consequences of their actions without threatening another person. For example, if you pass your biology exam we will head out for dinner to celebrate. If you abuse me later on, I will the call police. Do not let their crisis turn into your crisis. If you have plans and another individual is demanding or dramatic, don’t get derailed but instead continue with your plans. Make sure that you’re not doing what you are asking the other person to stop or start doing! If you want them to get up earlier in the day, make sure you’re up. If you want them to clean up their desk, then ensure that yours is clean. Let the other person make their choices and experience the consequences without even trying to”save” them. Do not expect the other person to believe or do things the way that you would. Never blame yourself for the choices that the other person makes. Enjoy the serenity that results when you learn how to live and let live.